Love Yourself First (Detachment Part 1)
Detachment. This word caught my attention when I was reading an article about
self-healing on a website. It is the opposite of attachment and I expect it would be an interesting topic to discuss as these days some people feel easily attached to mundane things. Afterward, I googled to learn more about it (mostly from Pinterest) and got
startled, like, Damn, why I just found out this lesson by now?!
Here's my personal summary on detachment. It has many beautiful deep thoughts but I love to start with two:
1. Allow others to be who they are
2. Allow yourself to be who you are
By fully understanding these lessons, things will come lighter. I feel more relieved to accept any kind of situation (not only about a heartbreak thingy), especially during hard times. One big point I slowly realize is that I can't control things that have happened, but I can always control my response to them, right? I can choose the action that I'm aware would be the best version of myself. But, remember, no response is also a response.
It looks blurry in the beginning. However, the more I learn about it, the more I gain new perspectives in life. I learn to let go of anything. I learn to focus on things that create my real happiness. I learn to be more grateful and feel sufficient. I learn to love myself, every inch of it.
Self-love is mandatory. It's not only about doing favorite things but also learning to say no. Declining a catch-up invitation from friends because you know they will only talk about their selves is a good option. Avoiding trail running activities because you know your ex must be there is not a wrong choice.
"Seek the fountain from within yourself." - Rumi
Here's my personal summary on detachment. It has many beautiful deep thoughts but I love to start with two:
1. Allow others to be who they are
2. Allow yourself to be who you are
By fully understanding these lessons, things will come lighter. I feel more relieved to accept any kind of situation (not only about a heartbreak thingy), especially during hard times. One big point I slowly realize is that I can't control things that have happened, but I can always control my response to them, right? I can choose the action that I'm aware would be the best version of myself. But, remember, no response is also a response.
It looks blurry in the beginning. However, the more I learn about it, the more I gain new perspectives in life. I learn to let go of anything. I learn to focus on things that create my real happiness. I learn to be more grateful and feel sufficient. I learn to love myself, every inch of it.
Self-love is mandatory. It's not only about doing favorite things but also learning to say no. Declining a catch-up invitation from friends because you know they will only talk about their selves is a good option. Avoiding trail running activities because you know your ex must be there is not a wrong choice.
"Seek the fountain from within yourself." - Rumi
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